Carolina Family Therapy

a teletherapy practice offering online appointments to LDS clients in North Carolina, Utah, and Arizona 

LDS Couples Counseling

 

For “all in” active LDS couples and for those figuring out mixed-faith or post-Mormon marriages

Working with an LDS therapist can help you feel like your religious beliefs will be respected and understood, and you won’t have to waste time trying to explain cultural nuances.  I will not make assumptions about your personal beliefs, but I have a thorough understanding of the doctrine and culture of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.  In therapy, not only will you learn strategies to improve your communication, intimacy, and emotional connection, we will also consider ways that your Mormon culture influences your relationship.

If you or your spouse are going through a faith transition, I can help you find ways to understand each other, compromise, and rebuild emotional intimacy and trust.  If you and your spouse have left the LDS church and are working to rebuild a life of meaning without the church, I can help you find ways to live and connect with the values that are important to you in a new way.  I do not have an agenda for where you end up.

Click here to learn more about my approach to individual therapy for LDS adults.  Click here to learn more about my approach to working the LDS kids and teens.

Is working with an LDS counselor different than working with any marriage therapist?

I use the same research-based approaches that you might expect to receive when seeing any other therapist.  However, you should have a lot less explaining to do when it comes to cultural factors that may be affecting your relationship.

Common culturally specific issues include ideas about the harmfulness of pornography, parenting issues related to church standards, priesthood and gender roles, the way church callings and activity affect your family lifestyle, the heartbreak of infertility, the difficulty when a spouse or a child no longer wants to be active in the church, and more.

It is important to note that I am not a spiritual advisor or a replacement for ecclesiastical leadership.  My role is to help you improve your mental health and relationships.

 

 

Are you or your spouse going through a faith transition?

I love working with people on every inch of the Mormon spectrum, whether you are fully active, have removed your name from the records of the church, or are somewhere in between.

A faith crisis can strain relationships and exacerbate existing mental health issues.  As your therapist, I am aware of how Mormon culture can affect your mental health, and I have no agenda for your level of religious involvement.  I can help you find peace and fulfillment again.

I also understand how painful and scary it can be for believing spouses to feel that they are being rejected alongside the religious lifestyle that you originally agreed upon and promised to follow together.  Couples counseling can help you reconnect with the values you still share and help you be there for each other during this period of transition.

My Approach

Hi, I’m Kelly.  As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, I am trained in systemic thinking which means I envision you and your problem not in isolation, but in the context of your relationships, your family, you school or workplace, and your culture.  Your culture includes your Mormon background, which may play an important part in understanding your problems.

I use this systemic, relational approach in combination with research-based techniques including cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), and the Gottman method for couples to help you learn new coping and communication skills, gain clarity, and feel better.

 

“Like any part of the body, the brain is subject to illnesses, trauma, and chemical imbalances. When our minds are suffering, it is appropriate to seek help from God, from those around us, and from medical and mental health professionals.”

Reyna I. Aburto in October 2019 General Conference

“If you had appendicitis, God would expect you to seek a priesthood blessing and get the best medical care available. So too with emotional disorders.”

Jeffrey R. Holland in October 2013 General Conference

“Seek the advice of reputable people with certified training, professional skills, and good values. Be honest with them about your history and your struggles. Prayerfully and responsibly consider the counsel they give. … Our Father in Heaven expects us to use all of the marvelous gifts He has provided in this glorious dispensation.”

Jeffrey R. Holland in October 2013 General Conference

Pricing

Learn more about my rates and find answers about payment options. 

Tween

Emotion Management

 For tweens who need coping skills to manage strong emotions such as:

-anxiety

-anger

-suicidal thoughts 

and

For their parents or caregivers struggling to handle emotional outbursts

couple

Couples Therapy or Discernment Counseling

 Couples Therapy for couples who are committed to changing relationship patterns, improving communication skills, and increasing intimacy and vulnerability

or

Discernment Counseling for couples in which at least one partner is considering separation or divorce and is not sure if an attempt to improve the relationship is worth the effort

Individual Therapy

For older teens and adults who are interested in working through personal issues related to:

-family or partner relationships

-perfectionism or fear of failure

-disordered eating or body image

-sports and performance psychology

-grief and loss

-faith transitions

 Contact Me

I look forward to hearing from you!  Email is the best way to get in touch with me.  Both email and phone/voicemail are secure and HIPAA compliant.

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(919) 213-0991

964 High House Rd, #3037 Cary, NC 27513 [mailing address only]

kelly@carolinafamilytherapy.com